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Well man, the way I see it is that when someone is with you, in this context, a girl, then whatever she does, says, wears, basically represents you. And now that's something one really needs to think about.
Going back to 2007, I met this girl, she was a good person, and I liked her. After a year or so, she was 'good enough' for me to tell my parents about her. So my family, after knowing her a bit, had good communication and relationship, so to say. And so I was in that point in life where I could easily say that I don't want anything more.
Well, she left for Canada for studies in I guess 2010, nothing that I could control, but I wasn't against it either. I just told her that whatever may happen when she goes there, she should just be herself, the way she is now, as for me, that's as good as it gets, and that she shouldn't change. She agreed, and actually made a joke about it, yeah.
Well folks, it's been a little over a year that I ended things, simply because she couldn't keep her word (it was a six year thing). Talking about short dresses, tight clothes, yea all that, and the bonus was talking disrespectfully. My family were astonished as I had told them that, but then they weren't completely surprised as they had good reasons for it.
Long story short, you really don't know people unless they're exposed to something, may be a stimulus of some sort, which brings me back to the first line in this comment: The only way for things to go a little smoother is if you're the 'guy' in the relationship, and not the opposite. Because only then, would a chick really know that what you may like and what you don't feel good about.