Betraying my parents.

[RobinX]

Solution is simple.Leave GF,study hard,get good grades and make ur parents happy.

 

[BaqarNaqvi]

That is exactly what I tell myself whenever I see my friends going out on a date I know they'll fail miserably in exams and they do ! Trust me this is good thinking . !

Obviously yar .... we all should think like that. But cant handle the explicit taught man. Jo kertay hai unhay apni jawani per control nahi. Plus Grades to ghtya atay hi hai agay ja ker kamzoori bhi hojati hia

 

[SteelDragon]

I don't know what kind of girls are you guys hanging out with but my experience of a relationship has been great. I used to be a guy who avoids interaction with people. I had no confidence at all and was average in studies. It started when I was in 2nd year of my university education (now I am in final year). Since then my life has completely transformed. My grades went exponentially up, I started taking part in extra curricular activities, stopped taking pocket money from my parent and started earning quite a lot of cash myself while maintaining the performance in studies. She motivated me for all this, groomed my personality. So I don't think that a true relationship can ruin your education, but a bad one can.

 

[iNF3RN0]

I just want to know, how many of you are doing the same. Common you should've balls to face the reality.

Btw, i have decided not to repeat this mistake this time and i will be doing what my parents want me to do but still there are few things which kept on distracting me. What should i do?

I can't even think about betraying my parents, I can and have done things which were against my will but for the sake of my parents happiness I don't give a damn about some woman, money and anything else because my parents are great and I can do anything for keeping them happy and there's no second opinion when it's comes to:

Allah & Prophet S.A.W > parents > anything else in the world.

However different people have different opinions, I have seen people who don't give a damn about their parents, I call them #%#€$%#~#%

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[hackersid]

Do what I did when I got rejected :- I proposed my right hand and we have been living happily ever after.

 

[dododo123]

The notion that going against your parents' wishes or disagreeing with them is betrayal seems absurd to me. Unquestionably there is an age where one is fully dependant on their intellect and wisdom for guidance, but eventually one reaches a threshold where independant decision making makes a clear assertion. While my parents have raised me to uphold the principles and beliefs they hold most important, they have never expected me to be a carbon copy of their personas. Eventually, they knew, I would reach a point where my personality would develop facets alien to theirs. This means I do sometimes disagree with them, and I do feel, on occasion, that their advice is imperfect. What I have faith in, though, is their good intention. I understand that whatever I hear from them is an attempt to make my life easier or better. This results in disagreements of the most passive kind; while we might not see eye to eye on some subjects, we respect each others opinions and intentions.


I have no plans of carrying out every single one of my parents wishes to the fullest, nor do they expect me to. They will continue to guide me, and they expect me to exercise my intellect and my personal experince to make the final calls.


In college, though, I feel your primary responsibility is both to yourself and to your parents, in that you must study sufficiently to graduate and set yourself up for a financially stable future.

 

[TheSkeletron]

well......sad but true believe me bro she didnt like you... (pacman)

 

[wQr hSN]

The notion that going against your parents' wishes or disagreeing with them is betrayal seems absurd to me. Unquestionably there is an age where one is fully dependant on their intellect and wisdom for guidance, but eventually one reaches a threshold where independant decision making makes a clear assertion. While my parents have raised me to uphold the principals and beliefs they hold most important, they have never expected me to be a carbon copy of their personas. Eventually, they knew, I would reach a point where my personality would develop facets alien to theirs. This means I do sometimes disagree with them, and I do feel, on occasion, that their advice is imperfect. What I have faith in, though, is their good intention. I understand that whatever I hear from them is an attempt to make my life easier or better. This results in disagreements of the most passive kind; while we might not see eye to eye on some subjects, we respect each others opinions and intentions.


I have no plans of carrying out every single one of my parents wishes to the fullest, nor do they expect me to. They will continue to guide me, and they expect me to exercise my intellect and my personal experince to make the final calls.


In college, though, I feel your primary responsibility is both to yourself and to your parents, in that you must study sufficiently to graduate and set yourself up for a financially stable future.

Dude, you put the things very nicely

 

[EmSpecial]

only "lakeer ki faqeer" girls will accept the proposal on the first meeting.. you just met and blasted out your feelings.. lool..very bad..

 

[sshah]

Aptly put @dododo123. This thread makes it seem as if we somehow have a hard responsibility to fulfill every single one of our parents wishes or else it is the greatest religious sacrilege.

 

[TheSkeletron]

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Do what I did when I got rejected :- I proposed my right hand and we have been living happily ever after.

ahhahahahhaha...that sound crazy dude (lmao) buh trust me ....ur right hand will lead u to some serious conditions...:flame:

 

[Blastwave]

Cut out the perverted crap.

 

[shah ho nam]

okay so there is this girl who got admission in my college and is my junior. She is very stunning and beautiful, since day 1 she was getting proposals from guys to be their girlfriend but nobody was successfull enough to get her. So i decided to try my luck and went up to her the other day. I asked her out and her reply was:
"look i am a humen being too, i also like to go out on dates and stuff but my parents didn't send me here for this and IF i do so, i'll be betraying my parents"

Her words were very polite and were effective enough to turn me down and there was that day i started respecting her more than my teachers. those golden words made me realize that i am betraying my parents, they send me college for study and i am doing that which they can't even think of.

I didn't studied in my o'levels and wasted my time in these things, hence i got bad grades. I should've had learned from my mistake but unfortunately, i did exactly the same mistake in my college last year.

I just want to know, how many of you are doing the same. Common you should've balls to face the reality.

Btw, i have decided not to repeat this mistake this time and i will be doing what my parents want me to do but still there are few things which kept on distracting me. What should i do?

instead of you chasing her around. would be better if she's the one who chase u instead.
Girl nowdays doesn't even care about how the boy looks like. It's just that the special guy have special something that makes him better than the rest of the group. U need to have something to drag her to you.

figure out yourself

 

[Wolfy]

oye kakay life hai chalta hai.... pehli jaye gi nahi tu dosri kaisay aye gi.

besides I am a believer that " a man should marry a woman who loves him, rather whom he love"

 

[K3yser]

oye kakay life hai chalta hai.... pehli jaye gi nahi tu dosri kaisay aye gi.

besides I am a believer that " a man should marry a woman who loves him, rather whom he love"

O nai yar 8/10 cases m bandi is a 4 while you are a 6... its all abt numbers man, you can understand that dont you??

 

[kooldj]

All girls are not the same !

maybe they ARE NOT THE SAME..but THEY WILL BECOME THE SAME SOONER SON..love stories say ghar ki rozi roti ziada arsa nai chalti jani, yeh sirf teenage daur k khail hayn.

 

[fre3gun]

Just study harder, get good grades to impress her parents not the girl

joke apart your first aim should be studies to get outrageous grades (apkay parents apna pait kaat kr apko khilatay hain aur phr parhnay ke liye bhejtain hain takay ap kuch bunjayen aur apnay pairon per kharay hokar apni life sunwarain warna unhain kia zarurat hai itni mehnat kerney ki???).... once you'll be on your own and build your titanium balls .... Your parents will themselves force you to have one Strange but true.... So just keep friends to have good social life while helping in studies....

 

[Behrox]

[MENTION=13101]Hassan[/MENTION] Simple advice ha abhi parh le bad me in kam ka bohat time mile ga lekin parhne ka yeh time wapis nai ae ga kake

 

[silverknife]

Aur kuch ho na ho... Title zor hai bhai

 

[Hassan]

ok so i have decided, I will try not to stare at girls (will let them scan me) and i will be concentrating hard on my studies (no bunks whatsoever)

I went to the college and did this ^^ Believe you me, it was kinda relaxing and tension free. I studies, chilled with friends and came back home. Thanks PG

but i don't think so if i can be like this for the whole session, 2-3 din me wapas line pr aa jaun ga :S

P.S. I have said Bye forever to all my female friends and so-called gf with whom em in so-called love. I hope i ll not be desperate enough to message' em back