Trying To Forget Someone

[AbdullahShafiq]

Bro look on the bright side, atleast your future children are less likely to have genetic diseases now.

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Exactly, What I was thinking. :agree:

 

[shahzadfootball]

You again are referring him to consult his cousin I doubt he will ever do that again lol

Oh I am sure he doesnt mean THAT cousin.This is Pakistan.One does not simply have only one cousin

 

[mhaqs]

I totally forgot to give the OP one advice that matters:

"Do not listen to Linkin Park". Or such songs for that matter, they'll make it worse to get over it.

 

[AlienX]

The bad news is there is no shortcut.

The Good news is it will eventually wear off to the point that you'll appreciate it but in a respectable way.

 

[Crow]

wait, you started college? lol you are way too young for this bullshit. stop being dramatic, you have your entire life and generally the entire decade of 20s to look forward to.

 

[have0]

i ll wear off but not until you try to wear it off .!
just forgive her for all this pain full times her thoughts caused you and accept the fact that you are only responsible for all the pain ( which is true in fact ) forgive her by actually saying these words to your self .!

thoughts immerse in our mind instantly but it is up to us that we continue thinking on that matter or switch to another thought, you can skip thoughts .!

 

[staticPointer]

Supposedly, if this guy does shoot himself (Allah forbid), and law was prevalent in this country. You'd be partially responsible for his action. I've seen this kind of attitude before on PG and I'm not shocked since the forum is filled with kids. Just don't give him stupid ideas, please.

@OP, dude, it'll take time to get over it. There is really no other way around it.

sorry man .. i cant do any thing as our nation is so dumb and jahil ..!!!

 

[saad51233]

wait, you started college? lol you are way too young for this bullshit. stop being dramatic, you have your entire life and generally the entire decade of 20s to look forward to.

Haha lol. I see kids in school do this, nevermind collage.

 

[Benighted]

Project your hopes into the future and wait until you mature. When you get there you'll be a different man (hopefully).

 

[ChuRsiBilLa]

Haha haha haha haha

After reading few of above replies.

Ishq mein nakaam hojao ab namaz parho. Matlab ishq ki nakamiyabi bachon ko musalmaan kardeti hai hahahahahaha....

Bhai is ka matlb hai k har badey ko hi devdas bn jana chahhiye ........ fir jahan hum jumey ki jumey masjid me jatey hain wahan 5 wqt ba-jamaat namaz parh liya kre gey .... lel ..

 

[Stylazation]

Everything happens for a reason. Wasn't worth it. Please move on. That's as simple as anyone can put it out.

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[mhaqs]

sorry man .. i cant do any thing as our nation is so dumb and jahil ..!!!

Don't put us in your nation. Your nation is obviously dumb and jahil because you're a part of it. You should just accept that you made a stupid comment and get over it.

 

[Zeus MK]

@Title. @Assumed Context

This is one of the most difficult thing to do in this world.
At times it seems almost impossible.

well the only thing you can do is to reverse the effects of affection.

Don't try to forget.
Instead Try NOT to.

It think gradually with time, extreme levels of prolonged one sided desire and affection might lead to enervation and exhaustion.. which may in turn help in the depletion of the primary affection until it becomes null and void.

 

[crazyhassan]

Project your hopes into the future and wait until you mature. When you get there you'll be a different man (hopefully).

Insha Allah

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Don't put us in your nation. Your nation is obviously dumb and jahil because you're a part of it. You should just accept that you made a stupid comment and get over it.

lol i thought he is a mateur person.. well leave it

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will be happy when someday i will be writing this to someone else ( i hope not) telling that i moved on so do you ... and yes it was the dumbest step that i took.... and i am hoping that Allah ( S.W,T) will help me as my parents and you ppl also agreee... and so do i ...

thank u all for kind words

 

[sufi]

phewww....
in 2011 i fell in love with a beatifull girl (cousin) but i didnt have balls to tell her . i used to visit her once in a year . when i visited her in 2012 my curiosity increased and asked friends to help me. i was in a serious trouble , then in aug 2012 i was somehow able to tell about my feelings and was waiting for her response , in start her response was very ignoring but after one month of hardwork the output came and she started taking interest in me ,, as she lived far far away from where i lived ( 24 hours drive ) ..

then we had a good relationship a very very good relationship,, and when i visited her in mid 2013 we had a very good time together . i lived there for almost 3 months.. then i had to come home ofc.. then my college started , and i had to take interest in studies instead of her,, there were distance between me and her.. then one day atlast i received a text of bye..... and thats it we never met and had a sit-n-talk situation... and its been 1 and half year we broke up.. we never had a contact with each other,,,

i wanted to move-on but m stuck,, when ever i try to workout or any exercise , it starts making me remind of her, because when we were toghether , i had a motivation so i lost a lot of weight by hitting gym alot means 20-22kg


but right now as she is not with me i am here again sitting in front of my computer dont know what to do more with this life, and i dont want her back as there are many reasons,, just i want to move on....

i need a motivation and energy like i had back then ,,,,

right now this time is very difficult for me ,,,,

Most of us face this time .. But please ... There is a clear and better Way .. Best motivation to help u move up.. Get up again .. And be more strong ... And its
turn to Allah.. anyone can leave you alone but not him .. Make dua ,repent , cry in front of him .. Allah is always there to support broken hearts.. Attend bayans .. And make your self busy in studies , job , housework .. Make friends(good gathering).

This is the only way for broken hearts to get up and live .. Else all other ways are just to hide the pain which will keep hurting time to time ..


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[eternalgreymon]

Ah one of those things, i see. I am not gonna go through the whole 6 pages worth of replies, but as far as i can tell you have gotten 6 types of suggestions.
A- Move on, get another. Stop being a wuss.
B- Go towards religion.
C- Actually a decent, understandable suggestion.
D- You are a heathen/Sinner! kill yourself!, etc.
E- Some kind of troll/Meme.
F- Your love aint love. its infatuation/a crush. When you grow to be more mature, you'll understand.

Not that i am suggesting that replies A and B are completely worthless. But really. A isn't really the right thing to do at all. What, if it happens again then repeat the cycle? Possibly setting you up to go through the whole thing again? Eventually your mind would assume this is how things are supposed to be, making you an unfeeling, emotionless shell in the long run(And that's how one turns into a "playboy". Sad.)

And B. oh B. the effects of religion are determined by how much belief one holds. As long as the mind accepts something to be real, you will consider it to be a reality. Ofcourse that would work if the belief was there "before" the tragedy. Since the guy is having a lot of trouble with his problem, and having the inability to focus on things, trying to attain a belief "now" probably isn't gonna work.

D.well that's just plain retarded. Not gonna bother explaining that. And why would anyone posting E even bother to post? What, you got a lot of free time on your hands?

F- Here's the deal. Love is subjective. What is love for you may not be love for someone else. Emotions are emotions. A couple of years down the line, OFCOURSE he'll think he was an idiot back then. That's true for practically anything, not just love. If he had fallen in love at the age of 25, would he really be feeling a lot differently?

It takes about 8 months for your mind to cope with the loss of someone that you hold dear. Not that i am saying you'll completely forget what happened, but the massive influx of emotions would dissipate considerably. Your mind needs time to come to terms with what has happened, and try to rationalize. You could call this maturity, but all that has happened is that your mind has simply answered questions such as what happened? Why it happened? Could things have turned out differently somehow? Could anything have been done to avoid this? What steps should be followed to avoid similar occurrences in the future?, or atleast your mind has tried to.

To be honest, there's really not a lot that you can do untill your mind copes. you can keep yourself distracted, try not to be alone with your thoughts. eventually your mind will learn to cope. in a comedic sense, what happened to you is kinda like having a constant water supply in the bathroom. You tend not to notice it, but as soon as it stops, you really notice its absence xD.

Ahem, back to the point. What you did was rather silly(Not spending time with her cause you were busy with other stuff). Women tend to get fidgety when you ignore them. Avoid that next time. Relationships aren't only for your benefit, and they are not all sunshine and roses. you gotta do your part to keep it interesting for the both of you.
That's the lesson you have learned from this. This whole ordeal has taught you something, hasn't it? Don't "try" to fall for someone again ASAP. That's your mind's initial way of coping. To try to feel the emotions you felt through another source. To keep the status Quo intact(Rebounding, as they call it). The mind doesn't like to scrap something that was known in favor of something that contradicts it(Cognitive dissonance).

Give it time. It will get better. Patience is the key. Also, don't try listening to sad songs to pass the time. That is a hindrance in itself -_-, Your mind's ploy to remind you of the one who, it thinks, can bring all those nice feelings back. Don't fall for it.

Well that was probably my longest post ever here. Most will probably post TL;DR and move on, but i hope you take the time to read through it, TC. If you wanna talk about it, Send me a PM if you like.

 

[crazyhassan]

Ah one of those things, i see. I am not gonna go through the whole 6 pages worth of replies, but as far as i can tell you have gotten 6 types of suggestions.
A- Move on, get another. Stop being a wuss.
B- Go towards religion.
C- Actually a decent, understandable suggestion.
D- You are a heathen/Sinner! kill yourself!, etc.
E- Some kind of troll/Meme.
F- Your love aint love. its infatuation/a crush. When you grow to be more mature, you'll understand.

Not that i am suggesting that replies A and B are completely worthless. But really. A isn't really the right thing to do at all. What, if it happens again then repeat the cycle? Possibly setting you up to go through the whole thing again? Eventually your mind would assume this is how things are supposed to be, making you an unfeeling, emotionless shell in the long run(And that's how one turns into a "playboy". Sad.)

And B. oh B. the effects of religion are determined by how much belief one holds. As long as the mind accepts something to be real, you will consider it to be a reality. Ofcourse that would work if the belief was there "before" the tragedy. Since the guy is having a lot of trouble with his problem, and having the inability to focus on things, trying to attain a belief "now" probably isn't gonna work.

D.well that's just plain retarded. Not gonna bother explaining that. And why would anyone posting E even bother to post? What, you got a lot of free time on your hands?

F- Here's the deal. Love is subjective. What is love for you may not be love for someone else. Emotions are emotions. A couple of years down the line, OFCOURSE he'll think he was an idiot back then. That's true for practically anything, not just love. If he had fallen in love at the age of 25, would he really be feeling a lot differently?

It takes about 8 months for your mind to cope with the loss of someone that you hold dear. Not that i am saying you'll completely forget what happened, but the massive influx of emotions would dissipate considerably. Your mind needs time to come to terms with what has happened, and try to rationalize. You could call this maturity, but all that has happened is that your mind has simply answered questions such as what happened? Why it happened? Could things have turned out differently somehow? Could anything have been done to avoid this? What steps should be followed to avoid similar occurrences in the future?, or atleast your mind has tried to.

To be honest, there's really not a lot that you can do untill your mind copes. you can keep yourself distracted, try not to be alone with your thoughts. eventually your mind will learn to cope. in a comedic sense, what happened to you is kinda like having a constant water supply in the bathroom. You tend not to notice it, but as soon as it stops, you really notice its absence xD.

Ahem, back to the point. What you did was rather silly(Not spending time with her cause you were busy with other stuff). Women tend to get fidgety when you ignore them. Avoid that next time. Relationships aren't only for your benefit, and they are not all sunshine and roses. you gotta do your part to keep it interesting for the both of you.
That's the lesson you have learned from this. This whole ordeal has taught you something, hasn't it? Don't "try" to fall for someone again ASAP. That's your mind's initial way of coping. To try to feel the emotions you felt through another source. To keep the status Quo intact(Rebounding, as they call it). The mind doesn't like to scrap something that was known in favor of something that contradicts it(Cognitive dissonance).

Give it time. It will get better. Patience is the key. Also, don't try listening to sad songs to pass the time. That is a hindrance in itself -_-, Your mind's ploy to remind you of the one who, it thinks, can bring all those nice feelings back. Don't fall for it.

Well that was probably my longest post ever here. Most will probably post TL;DR and move on, but i hope you take the time to read through it, TC. If you wanna talk about it, Send me a PM if you like.

i will PM you brother...
life is all about how you take care of others emotions ,,, and we are being taught from the first day of our life that we should respect other emotions.....
idk, why these people pointing me like i am an idiot ,,, i think they didnt had a life .. because they are too busy with their own life and anti social people.. even if they see someone dying,, they will use hashtags # .,,, not save them ...



my point was that even i had this rough situation , i wanted to share my experience whether this thing happen to all of u ppl or its just me .. and how to be strong again , as u ppl might have jobs, a good wife,, and a complete family

 

[The Suspect]

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[mostwanted]

its just a crush bro,nothing more and nothing less, when u grow up u will say what was i thinking? happened to me and today i ask my self what the heck i was doing?? it is painfull yes and it wont go away easily..go out with friend and plz dont listen to songs they wont do a damn thing. start praying 5 times a day, it will help you to get out of this situation.

 

[manigamer]

Get Lobotomized!

sh*t just what i came here to say